Still crazy after all these years- today is our 25th wedding anniversary

Posted: June 21, 2011 in Cool Stuff just for you

Today I have been married to my wife Amy for 25 years. 

I’m having trouble not getting very emotional today as there are few times in our lives that we feel such  a strong bond to another human being.  Our spouse being one and our children being another, then close friends come in. 

The uniqueness of my wife is that she is not only my lover, but my friend, a faithful companion that has stuck with me even through some very hard times.  Trust me, it’s not easy being married to a passionate person.  With me it’s all or nothing, and many times that means late nights, tireless commitment, loud music, and going above and beyond.  Amy has been there through all of it and still she stays with me. 

I’ll never forget asking her father for her hand in marriage.  He was sitting in his recliner reading a Louis Lamore book and looked up over his glasses after I had said I wanted to talk to him.  I said that his daughter and I had been talking and felt like we could get a lot more for God accomplished if we were married.   He looked over and  asked his wife, Ena, to grab him his Bible. The Bible was thick with bulletins, poems, papers and more stuffed in the binding. He read a poem to us about commitment, smiled and told us that he thought that would be fine. Phew! 

We have been married now over half our life.  We got married when I was 20 and she was 19.  We were babies in the spectrum of things.  I was idealistic and she was naive .  We were both clueless as to what laid ahead for us.  What an adventure, it was like a roller coaster ride we went on.  There have been times that we have been climbing working hard and other times when we are falling to what looks like our demise.  We take corners like we are going to fall out and then find ourselves safely on the track destined for us.  At least we can say it hasn’t been boring.

I honestly believe that I got the better end of the deal.  After living with Amy for 25 years I have never met a more kind and loving person.  She gives and gives.  She is a great lover, friend and mother to our children.  She is really laid back, and to stay married to me she has had  to be. 

Five years ago when Amy and I were sitting in a little restaurant in Las Vegas celebrating our 20th anniversary, she looked into my eyes and told me she loved me.  She then said that whatever we did with our lives from this point on she wanted us to do what was right and honor God.  At that time it meant standing up and putting my career on the line.  She promised me that her vows were true and that she would stand with me through thick and thin.  We got back from our trip and our lives were tipped upside down as we dealt with a very hard situation.  For three years we battled to do the right thing only to lose my career, my friends and what I had worked for all my life.  Guess what?  I felt like everyone left me, some of my closest friends, except her.  She knew the real me.  She has believed in me far above anyone else in my life except for Jesus. 

Now I watch her have to leave the home for work to help us pay for our bills and admire her commitment to our relationship.  For years she stayed home with the kids while I put in the hours earning the money.  Now we both work hard to make ends meet.  I have to say, she is one of the few people that has put her actions ahead of her words.  She doesn’t give up and even this morning when, a few years ago, we would have spent the day together on our anniversary, she said to me, “well, we GET to work today!”    What a great attitude and another reason I love being married to her.

We have had our ups and downs, but with our faith in Christ and our commitment to love each other even when we don’t feel like it, I think we have won.  25 years is a big achievement, but quite frankly, it hasn’t been as hard for me as it must be for her!  LOL!  I got a very wonderful gift the day that her daddy handed her to me at the altar of the First Baptist Church in Raymond WA. 

I am humbled, grateful and still in awe.   There is a song that I want dedicate to her and all the years… it’s by Cindy Morgan.  How could I ask for more?  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fHHjvNDAXAQ

I love you Amy.

 -Rick

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Comments
  1. Some may say, “congratulations … et cetera, et cetera, et cetera”; I would just like to say…
    “WAY TO GO!!! and, well, I don’t want to get all mushy so I’ll leave it at that.

    Curtis

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